Friday, June 25, 2021

SATURDAY STORY - JUNE 26, 2021


 SATURDAY STORY - JUNE 26, 2021



So, I get to try my fiction writing again.  Yeehaw!!


Allison Walsh was in LOVE - head over heels in LOVE - floating on the clouds in LOVE.  The petite brunette college student had a boyfriend.  


***

But, the apple of her eye was not totally in love with Allison.  Tim had good looks and a good job, but Tim had an ego that was a million miles wide.  Tim thought he was “God’s gift to women”.  Yeah, Allison was nice - and he sure could manipulate her - like Play Doh in his hands.  Yeah - free rent.  Free meals.  All he needed to do is throw some compliments in her direction occasionally.  And, for a ‘stud-muffin’ like Tim, free sex.  


***

Allison danced around her apartment that morning after Tim left for work.  Her hugs and touches woke him up and he squeezed her tightly.  “I love you”, she crooned.  “You are so strong and amazing”.  Tim lapped up the comments like a kitten laps up milk.  ‘Yes, he thought, I AM so strong and handsome, Yes, I am so amazing, Yes, I’ve wrapped her around my little finger.’


That afternoon in the biology lab she coordinated as a senior at the University of Austin, visions of hugs, babies, family, danced in her brain.  Although not a deeply religious girl, she pictured a glorious church wedding followed by a reception, dinner, and dance at The Oaks.  Not this year, but next summer for the wedding.  She had a prestigious summer internship at Wood’s Hole National Oceanic Institute on Cape Cod at full graduate assistant pay.  And, next year, she would be a graduate assistant and also get a 3/4th scholarship at the University of Austin. She could go to graduate school almost for free!!  Professor Myers had discussed some academic papers they could do together.  Associate director Melody Saulnier at Wood’s Hole had been a former student of Sheila Myers and the three of them had all kinds of ideas for research, papers, and maybe even dissertation ideas.  And, the prize of Tim McDermott waiting in the wings to claim her hand in marriage.   


***

Tim got to the apartment an hour before Allison was done at the biology lab.  For her senior thesis, she organized and analyzed data on algae from Forker’s Pond near Burnet over twenty years.  Was global warming changing the algae?  Today was a writing and analysis day. The data was a bit sketchy, so she couldn’t quite prove her theories, but she could lay out a good case for continued study.  


But, Tim played video games with his friends, and drank three beers in that hour.  He also texted a couple of girls he knew.  He thought he might like some backup while Allison was in Massachusetts this summer.  


*****

Allison called Tim to indicate she was on her way.  Tim lied and said he just got home and asked if she could pick up some Panda Express Chinese food on her way home.  Of course, he could have run out and gotten it, or could have cooked something for them, but hey - she was his sweet provider. (And, she was Play Doh in this hands, and he could make good things out of Play Doh with his talent and looks)


***

 Allison got Kung Fu Chicken and Sweetfire Chicken at Panda Express.  She liked the veggie mix for her side and got brown rice for Tim’s side.  Five minutes later, she tugged the door open, while holding the Panda Express bag, her school laptop, and her purse.  Tim was in the front room with the evening news on - and didn’t get up to help until a commercial came on.  Israel was cracking down on Palestinian areas again (or the Palestinians were lobbing grenades into Jerusalem) - whatever.  


He wrapped his arms around Allison from the back and kissed her cheek sensually.  “How was school today, Honey?” he asked.


Unfortunately, he startled Allison who dropped a white carton of brown rice - Tim’s brown rice - on the floor.  Tim got the broom and swept up the rice - he could be helpful when he wanted to. 


He said “I’m sorry”, and the words did sound real and meaningful.  He hugged her again, and the moment of brown rice on the floor passed.   


*****

During dinner Allison talked about the lab work, her interest in global warming, and what she was doing for her senior research project. Tim had turned his phone and the TV off so he could listen.  


She asked about his day.  Sometimes Tim’s work at an analysis for the geek squad at Best Buy was hilarious.  Today he talked of a senior lady who had spilled a jar of Rago sauce into her keyboard.  Fortunately for the lady, her computer was under warranty and the keyboard could be opened up.  He laughed when he said it would probably smell like pasta forever.  


Then, the kid whose $150 Skull Candy headphones had broken with the right earphone totally cracked off.  Tim has seen that one before.  Skull Candy would replace it, but he would have to send it in.  The kid cried that he couldn’t just switch them out at the store.  Tim did get the kid a box and an address label - postage paid - to send the broken headphones back to the company.  He commented, “The kid will get refurbished headphones that might last a month”, and shook his head.  


Tim excused himself to use the bathroom.  A text came to his phone while he was gone - from Erika (Allison looked).  “Ah, so he is doing things behind my back.” The quiet ‘pang’ hit her heart.  Allison looked at the good things in life and knew that Tim wasn’t perfect, nobody was.  She also was philosophical enough to know that time would tell.  

The evening passed quietly.  Allison did her homework and spent time doing research on other studies similar to hers.  Tim played some video games.  The day had been warm for a mid-March day, and about eight o’clock, Tim suggested a walk around the block.  


*****

Like a runaway train, the school year was flying down the last days of its existence.  Papers to write, student labs to grade, oceanography club trip to Port Aransas, and elections as Allison could not be involved as a graduate student.  Plus a few unplanned trips.  Grandma Miller was having a hip replacement after a fall, and Allison wanted to spend some quality time with her.  Plus order her cap and gown, get some paperwork done for the summer, book her trip to Boston (where somebody from Wood’s Hole would pick her up).  But, Tim was on her mind.  


*****

On the other hand, Tim’s life was almost predictable.  Go to work, diagnose and fix computers, phones, and other technology, come home, sweet talk Allison into things, play video games online, and drink beer.  With an academic career ahead of her, Allison was planning her future, even some thoughts about academic papers.  She was going to get the prize.  Tim was going to get the paycheck and not much else.


Allison worried a little about Tim.  He had been an information technology major at Waco Community College and he excelled at hardware and networking issues.  Fixing the tough problem was Tim’s forte.  But, his horizon was pretty low.  Work for Best Buy as a Geek Squad member for forty-five years?  Allison didn’t know if he wanted to go into management, or get additional schooling?  Getting by was his mantra.  

*****

“Getting by” stopped being his mantra on the very next day.


On that Thursday morning going to work, weaving in and out on his motorcycle, and reaching speeds of 85 miles per hour in the 65 mph zone, Tim cut across in front of a car, hit a patch of uneven paving, and crashed into the Jersey Barrier on the right side.  When the EMTs arrived, he was bleeding and unconscious.  At a quick glance, Mike Barnes, the lead EMT figured Tim had a broken arm, and at least one broken leg.  His face was scratched and scarred.  Tim wore a helmet and Mike thought that helmet might have saved his life.  The EMTs took him to St. David’s Hospital on 38th Street, and into immediate surgery to stop the blood flow from his right leg and to set the bones.  


Two staff people in the Emergency Room searched his belongings for identification.  (Note, all was done under camera surveillance).  They found a Best Buy Geek Squad ID indicating he worked at the Best Buy at Mueller Shopping Center.  They found a driver’s license that had an address in Taylor.  With their databases they found an address in an apartment building off of Rio Grande - which was his address when he voted last fall.  


Assigned to check it out, two uniformed cops stopped by Allison’s apartment, but she had gone to campus.  Connecting with the renting office, they found Allison Walsh was a student at the University (like pretty much all of the apartments in that West Campus neighborhood).  


Next the cops contacted the campus police and found that Allison Walsh was an oceanography major and, if all was well, she would be in a microbiology lab until noon. 


So, not ‘business as unusual’ as the two cops interrupted Professor Fremling and asked to speak with Allison Walsh.  Allison came out in the hall as Sgt. Sara Wilson gave her the news that Tim had been in an accident and was in surgery at St. David’s hospital.  He probably would be back in a hospital room by noon.  She went back into the lab, but the lab work was not on her mind.


Allison had the lab she ran that afternoon.  She texted Professor Myers and Jose Perez (a graduate assistant who could cover the lab), explaining why she needed to be gone.


Almost immediately Sheryl Myers got back to her and said “Go - you are needed at the hospital.  We’ll find some way to cover your lab.”


Allison quickly finished most of the lab work, packed up her things and told the graduate assistant what was going on, and left.  Using her CapMetro app on her phone, she found she could catch a bus at 12:10 that would go by St. Davids, and off she went.


*****

Tim was still out when they wheeled him into a room.  He had a dripline with some morphine for the pain, and antibiotics for potential infections.  Meanwhile, Alison was fighting with a clerk about being allowed to see Tim.  She wasn’t a relative, a parent, or a spouse.  Were they engaged, no; had they lived together for a year or longer, no; so, why was she here?


Allison appealed to get a supervisor and explaining the situation again, managed to get approval to be in Tim’s room.  She had planned ahead and had her campus laptop as well as her iPhone and quietly took a chair in Tim’s room.  Staff came in and out - checking his vital signs, a doctor and an intern came to look at the broken limbs and the dressings.  Most nodded at Allison and some spoke words of encouragement to her.  One nurse asked her to press the call button when he awoke.  


The frequency of visitors slowed as other patients needed immediate help.  About 2:30 Tim opened his eyes, but seemed not to realize where he was.  Allison grabbed his good hand and tried to reassure him, and then she pressed the call button.


*****

Friday was a challenging day as the staff got Tim up and took more xrays and MRI images. The right leg was broken in two places.  The left arm sustained a break.  He hadn’t broken any bones on his face, but scraping your face on pavement can really mess a person’s looks. Friday afternoon, Tim’s parents came from Denton.  Mom left her elementary school in charge of the assistant principal; Dad cancelled his financial planning sessions (and his golf game for Saturday).  Allison greeted them with hugs and filled them in what she knew.  


*****

The next few days were good.  Tim had gotten up and around, using crutches.  It was hard to walk with a broken leg and a broken arm.  He had gotten a leave of absence from Best Buy, and had arrangements made at a Rehab center.  


*****

Meanwhile, Tim healed; Allison headed down the last lap of school; the sun rose and set; the baseball season went on.  And, Tim was changing.  Allison started to see this.  Tim asked questions about healing, about physical therapy, about caring for people.  


One night, a week before Allison left for Wood’s Hole, Tim confided to Allison - on the verge of tears.  “Allison, I’ve been a jerk.  I was too self-centered.  I was getting by.  I was just going with the flow.”  He paused and looked at the wall for a minute, and barely audible said, “And, I was using you.”  Then the tears slowly started.  “I was so wrong, I was such a phony”.


Allison was both shocked and amazed by Tim’s revelations.  He continued quietly “I’m sensing something beyond me, call it love, call it God.  I’ve been watching health care for three weeks.  I think I’m ready to explore other options for my life.  Computing makes a life for me, but I’m just good at it.  It’s not a field of growth or caring for my fellow man.”


Tim talked for about seven minutes straight - about considering going back to school for health care, maybe to be a physical therapist, or a nurse.  Allison was challenged by Tim’s candor.  The man who used her confessed to her.

*****

Epilogue

That summer was profound for Allison.  Her work at Wood’s Hole pushed her into the mainstream of oceanography.  Followed by her master’s and doctorate and eventually her appointment to the Associate Director of Oceanography in the National Science Foundation.


It might have been even more significant of a summer for Tim as he started part time working weekends at a rehab center.  He kept his Best Buy position to fund his direction towards health care.  In August, he resigned from Best Buy, and went full time at the University of Austin in health care.  Eventually, he also got a doctorate in physical therapy.  


The two did find parallel paths, but also built a new relationship with each other - now based on trust, honesty, and faith.  

*****


So, another Pollyanna story.  Not all ends were tied up neatly.  This story is loosely based on a former student many years ago that also was in a motorcycle accident and found a career in health care.  


LOVE WINS!!!


HUGS!!


Karen


Thursday, June 24, 2021

FRIDAY, JUNE 25, 2021 WHO DO YOU TRUST - LOVE WINS

 FRIDAY, JUNE 25, 2021 WHO DO YOU TRUST - LOVE WINS




This took me back a few years to 1957!!!  This was a black-and-white television show called “Who Do You Trust.”  The stars were __________ (emcee) and _______ (announcer). (Can you name the two? Answer later).


Three couples would compete in $25, $50, or $75 questions.  The man would decide to trust himself or to trust his wife on a question.  The winners of the day would go head to head with the winners from the previous day for up to $500!!  


But, the title is significant - who do you trust?  


*** Yes, I was all of 10 years old when this show started - and it ran until 1963.  The emcee was Johnny Carson, and the announcer was Ed McMahon - who later did the Tonight Show for many years!!!


*****


So, WHO DO YOU TRUST?


This is LOVE WINS FRIDAY, and it is a day where I throw in more spirituality than other days.


Years ago, I was in a workshop and one of the topics was ‘trust’.  We formed a circle with one person inside.  Then that person was to go limp and fall to the side of the circle.  The participants were to support that person and to pass him/her around.  The idea was the person at the center of the circle had to trust his or her group to not let them fall.  


*****

If I was the center of the circle, could I trust you to catch me?  If you were the center of the circle, would you trust me to catch you?

*****


Let’s see.


Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;

in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. (Proverbs 3:3-5)


When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. (Psalm 56:3)


But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.

They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream.

It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green.

It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit. (Jeremiah 17:7-8)


*****

Yes, we need to have trust.  Trust is defined as: “firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.” 


Can I trust in my doctor?  Maybe - but doctor’s do make mistakes (they are human after all - to err is human, to forgive divine!!).  Can I trust in my professor?  (Lynette - absolutely, Me - most of the time!!!).  Can I trust in my clergy person?  Generally, but there are those who have shown themselves to be human and fallen from Grace.  Can I trust in my car?  Maybe - but cars do break down.  


And, maybe two big questions these days:

.1 Can I trust the government to do the right things?

.2 Can I trust my spouse to do the right things?


As for the first one, you might answer “It depends”.  The government (to me at least) is so big with so many agencies and directions.  Plus we change governments periodically so you may or may not trust the current government. 


As for the second one, hopefully your answer is “Yes, I can trust my spouse”.


About the only thing (person) that I can really trust is God.  


BUT, I can’t see God!!  I can’t call God on my phone!!  I can’t email God!!!  How do I KNOW there even IS a God?  


And, does God really know me and care about me?


Good questions.  All I really know about God is generally through written words - words written by humans over the centuries.  Different people in different cultures read different words.  


Going back to Isaiah 55 we have:

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth,  so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”


But, for that to be ‘true’, we have to trust that Isaiah the writer was inspired.  After all, Isaiah was a human and humans are finite but God/Source/He/She is infinite!!!  Can we trust the Bible?  


Ahh - but that requires faith!!!  What if I believe in some other form of God/the Source - other than the Judeo-Christian view?  To me, it is a ‘trust’ issue.  Can I trust what is being said and what is being done?


*****

So - TRUST - “firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.” 


I “trust” that the bridge I drive across has the strength to hold up my car and the other cars on the roads.  I “trust” that the groceries I buy will not have salmonella 


And, I know that although I want people to trust in me, I am not 100% trustworthy.  I make mistakes.  So, by default, on this LOVE WINS Friday, I have to trust God - although I can’t see, hear, taste, smell the infinite SOURCE!!


LOVE WINS!!!


Karen


Wednesday, June 23, 2021

THURSDAY, JUNE 24, 2021 MOUNTAINS, DESERTS, AND BLESSINGS

 THURSDAY, JUNE 24, 2021 MOUNTAINS, DESERTS, AND BLESSINGS




This morning I’m reminded of the book of Job from scripture.


Quick recap of Job chapter 1.  God has blessed Job - he has wealth, he has a great family, everything is great, and he loves God.  Satan says “Of course, he loves you, because you have blessed him.  Take away all the things, and he will curse you”.  God says “Not my servant Job, he wouldn’t do that, but I give you permission to attack him.”  And, Satan attacks him - all his children die, his livestock is stolen or killed, and Job is wiped out.  Two excerpts from Job chapter 1.


“In the land of Uz there lived a man whose name was Job. This man was blameless and upright; he feared God and shunned evil. He had seven sons and three daughters, and he owned seven thousand sheep, three thousand camels, five hundred yoke of oxen and five hundred donkeys, and had a large number of servants. He was the greatest man among all the people of the East.

… and later

“While he was still speaking, yet another messenger came and said, “Your sons and daughters were feasting and drinking wine at the oldest brother’s house, when suddenly a mighty wind swept in from the desert and struck the four corners of the house. It collapsed on them and they are dead, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!””


*****

(So, Karen, where are you going with this?)


I was like Job in some respects.  God had blessed me.  I had an awesome job and profession, I had an amazing wife and family.  I had five fantastic grandchildren - twins and triplets - who adored me.  I had been blessed.  


I maybe had a couple of minor days in the ‘desert’, but Psalm 30:5 puts my life in perspective - Joy does come with the morning.


“For his anger is but for a moment,

    and his favor is for a lifetime.

Weeping may tarry for the night,

    but joy comes with the morning.”


*****

On October 28, 2018, I was ‘sent’ to the desert.  My wife said I had to leave our house, so I got an apartment in a different town - no friends, nobody I knew, my family had abandoned me.  


I wasn’t ready for the desert.  Like Job, I had been blessed.  And, now, like Job, it has been taken away.   (Note - “desert” and “wilderness” seem to be synonyms - so I’ll stay with the term “desert”)


I needed to be humbled.  (Or, at least that is my story - and I’ll sticking to it!!! <grin>).  Compared to 2016, my friend base is almost all different.  (I still have many old friends on Facebook but rarely see them).  


I needed to learn.  I had been ‘cocky’, egotistical - after all, I had been blessed by God.  Without the details, I have been humbled, I have learned to seek God’s Face, I have been knocked off my “high horse”, shipwrecked, and I have changed.  But, It isn’t done.  All of us are “works in progress”!!


If anything I’ve learned to like my desert.  And, it isn’t all that bad.  Joy does come with the morning.  I’ve learned to trust God - the source, he/she/it - the infinite who is so far above me.  Almost like John the Baptist “I am unworthy to loosen his sandals”!!!


Deserts do happen.  Moses spent time in the desert/wilderness before God spoke to him from the burning bush.  Jesus spent time in the desert/wilderness.  Elijah spent time in the desert/wilderness.  (Note, no way am I even comparing myself to any of these people!!)  


And I'd love to live on a mountain top - fellowshipping with the Lord.  And even in this desert/wilderness, I have had amazing mountain top experiences - my whole being has felt the ecstasy of the Presence of God.


I’ve read about those that went through the Nazi concentration camps (and into the fiery furnaces).  I am amazed at their fortitude and faith.  


*****

A little mental exercise for you today.  What would life be like if for some strange reason God led you (or permitted) you to go to the desert?  Or, like Job, you lost everything quickly.


Would you come back changed from time in the desert/wilderness?  


A friend is going through a health desert currently.  Chemotherapy, tongue biopsy, and family issues.  But she is generally upbeat and positive.


*****


Karen Anne White didn’t exist in this form six years ago.  Karen Anne White is still learning.  Karen Anne White has been humbled.  Like a caterpillar in a cocoon, Karen is seeing the cocoon change and open into her new butterfly shape.  


I’m not quite sure I want to wish that you go through that metamorphosis to be a butterfly; I’ll let you know in a few more years!!!


But, Karen Anne White has learned that LOVE WINS, that judgment and hate isn’t a good lifestyle for her, that we all are created in the image and likeness of God.  


And, you my friends, if you haven’t had this wilderness experience, it is coming.  If nothing else, you will go through a physical change called death.


So, the ride might be a little rocky at times.  There are bumps and potholes.  And, learning to sing: Let it be, dear Lord, let it be!! - might help on your journey!!!


LOVE WINS!!!


HUGS


Karen

 


Tuesday, June 22, 2021

WEDNESDAY, JUNE 23, 2021 MOUNTAIN TOPS AND DESERTS

 WEDNESDAY, JUNE 23, 2021 MOUNTAIN TOPS AND DESERTS




COMPETITION, MOUNTAIN TOPS, AND DESERTS (OR DESSERTS!!)


For the last two days, I’ve looked at competition and found that as I climb my “second mountain” (David Brooks’ book), that I am now competing against myself.  And, I will be back to David Brook’s book down the line.  It isn’t about competing, but about service, groups, and moving away from individualism.  


I mentioned last week that I love mountains.  I’m going to use an old Amy Grant song:


And I'd love to live on a mountain top

Fellowshipping with the Lord

I'd love to stand on a mountain top

'Cause I love to feel my spirit soar


But I've got to come down from that mountain top

To the people in the valley below

Or they'll never know that they can go

To the mountain of the Lord


We sometimes talk of those “mountain top experiences”   Those times of “fellowshipping with the Lord. WOW - those are very special.  Yes, I can “feel my spirit soar”!!  (WOOOO!!!)

*****

But, (in my humble opinion), I learned more in the desert experiences.  


And another song - America, “A Horse of No Name:

I've been through the desert

On a horse with no name

It felt good to be out of the rain

In the desert, you can remember your name

'Cause there ain't no one for to give you no pain


*****

Going through the desert generally implies going through a “dry period” in one’s life.  Things are tough.  In the Bible, Moses went to the desert after he killed an Egyptian (who was harassing the Hebrews).  He went to the desert area and herded sheep (not necessarily an experience that involves public speaking!!)


One source said this “One day, when he was in the desert, Moses heard the voice of God speaking to him through a bush which flamed but did not burn. God asked Moses to lead his people out of slavery in Egypt to the Promised Land.


Jesus was in the desert for forty days after his baptism.  


There were early hermits who lived in the desert.  Some lived in pinnacles and lowered a rope to get food and beverage sent up.  


A desert experience seems to mold a person.  Maybe hunger, the dry conditions, the isolation can lead a person to introspection.  In the Islamic tradition, Muhammed also had a desert experience.  King David spent time in the desert while Saul hunted him.


In Deuteronomy 8:2-5 the writer (supposedly Moses) says:


“Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands. He humbled you, causing you to hunger and then feeding you with manna, which neither you nor your ancestors had known, to teach you that man does not live on bread alone but on every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord. Your clothes did not wear out and your feet did not swell during these forty years. Know then in your heart that as a man disciplines his son, so the Lord your God disciplines you.”


Hmmm … so a time in the wilderness is to humble a person, to hunger after God.  


For some people, it might be a tragedy - death of a spouse, the death of a child or parent, loss of a job, divorce - some experience that forces you to go deeper into yourself.  (And, again, it doesn’t have to fit in the Judeo-Christian realm).


One source said this: “God leads every believer into the desert at one time or another.

Well, maybe not every believer.  I can’t give you a Bible verse that says that.  But in over 30 years of pastoring, I’d say God leads most believers into the desert at one time or another.”


*****

Have you had a desert experience?  A time of isolation, of hunger (maybe both physical hunger, and spiritual hunger?) A feeling of being outside of humanity?  Have you grown stronger because of some of the trials in your life?  


I have been through the desert (and I didn’t have a horse).  I’m not sure if I can share my desert experiences yet.  (But, I’d love to share my dessert anytime!! And as somebody pointed out - desserts is stressed spelled backward!!!)


Maybe the desert has helped me with my philosophy that LOVE WINS!!!  But, more and more, I KNOW that LOVE does WIN!!!


Hugs!!


Karen



Monday, June 21, 2021

TUESDAY, JUNE 22, 2021 BEING COMPETITIVE - PART II

 TUESDAY, JUNE 22, 2021 BEING COMPETITIVE - PART II




Yesterday, I wrote that I used to be competitive (on my own terms of course).  


Competitiveness can be really quite good.  Research and Development (R&D) departments spend a lot of time coming up with new competitive advantages.  Companies that can make a product better, faster, cheaper, with safety features, easier-to-use can gain a competitive advantage.  In the marketplace that is important!!


Even with people, being competitive can be good.  Maybe a good sales representative can anticipate a client’s needs better if he or she can use better analysis.  Maybe a check-out clerk is faster than other clerks and he or she can move customers in-and-out of the grocery store quicker is good.


[Aside:  On my summer job in college, I worked with Fritz Klapholtz.  His wife was a check-out clerk for one of the big HyVee Grocery Stores in Cedar Rapids, Iowa.  This was prior to scanners and barcodes.  She had to know the prices of a lot of items.  Most items did have a little price sticker on them, but she needed to know if that price was correct (and that a customer didn’t put a lower sticker on a higher priced item).  And, some items did not have price stickers.  I was impressed that she knew most of the prices in a huge grocery store.  Now, I can even check myself out at a self-checkout device!!]


Grocery stores with scanners could move people out the door faster (and now, I can’t imagine a store without a scanner). 


“Competitive Advantage” is what it is called.  In athletics, coaches recruit players who have a competitive advantage - bigger football players, quarterbacks who can run as well as pass and hand the ball off.  With the Olympics starting next month, countries are selecting their best athletes to win.  Many players could work longer at the gym, lift more weights, run more, train more, and have better coaches.


But, then there have been those who gain a competitive advantage by cheating.  Maybe the long-distance bike rider takes steroids to gain an advantage (like in the Tour de France).  Scouting other teams is a normal procedure for college athletics. Some schools have private practices where they might be trying out some trick plays.  I’ve known of coaches who try to sneak somebody into those private practices to scout.  


There is industrial espionage - where one company may try to steal the ideas from another company.  There are patents, copyright, trademarks to protect intellectual properties.  But, some companies will stop at nothing to get the latest and greatest intellectual properties.  


And, of course, countries also have espionage (aka “spies”) to see what other countries are planning.  All in the name of being competitive.


*****

But, on my personal level, I’m finding that I am only competitive with myself anymore.  Did I do the crossword puzzle faster today than yesterday?  (My ‘rule of thumb is to solve the USAToday Crossword Puzzle in under 10 minutes - and I hit that goal about 50% of the time).  Did I walk more miles today than yesterday?  Did I lift more weights today than yesterday?  


Another way of saying this - I’m working on a “better version of myself”.


But, some things are hard to measure.  Did I pray better today than yesterday?  Did I understand my scripture reading better today than yesterday?  Was I more loving today than yesterday?  Was I a better human being today than yesterday?  Did I service mankind better today than yesterday?  


*****

On the physical side.  The literature suggests that as a person ages, they lose some of their physical strength.  I doubt that I will walk a 20K again - and especially NOT at a 14:30 pace for a mile.  There might be a question of whether I am “pushing” me hard enough.  


On the mental side, one of the consistent recommendations is to keep mentally challenged.  Yes, I do like to write these daily blogs - but I also want to keep my brain active.  Romans 12:2 (a) says “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”


As I’m writing today, my brain has gone back many years to the Boy Scouts - and the Scout Oath: “On my honor, I will do my best to do my duty to God and my country and to obey the Scout Law; To help other people at all times; To keep myself physically strong, mentally awake, and morally straight.”


To help other people at ALL times

To keep myself physically strong, 

To be mentally awake

And, to be morally straight


That seems to say the direction I’m heading in my senior years.  


I am “COMPELLED” to keep going.  I have a prize to train for, my own personal Olympics,  A friend mentioned that “retirement” is not a scriptural term.  


So, my friends - all of us need to keep going, keep building a better, self-competing version of ourselves!!!


LOVE WINS!!


Karen


Sunday, June 20, 2021

MONDAY, JUNE 21, 2021 BEING COMPETITIVE - PART I

 MONDAY, JUNE 21, 2021 BEING COMPETITIVE - PART I




I think being competitive is a trait I have hidden from so many for so many years.  I can be very competitive.  


Really!!  I remember going with my neighbor to the apartment exercise room shortly after I moved in.  I could see her display, so I had to (a) go faster than she was, and (b) get more distance than she got.  And, I’m sure she wasn’t even thinking about that.  She was there to get her exercise, Shd had invited me as a new neighbor to check it out.  Was I trying to impress my new neighbor that I was able to walk faster on a treadmill than she could?  (Well my legs are much longer as a start).  Was I trying to show her who was the ‘boss’?  Pretty stupid!!!


When I was involved in the ICCP - Institute for Certification of Computer Professionals and I was monitoring others taking tests (and I had access to tests) I probably took certification exams in five or six areas - and got at least passing scores or high-passing scores.  Of course, I was a professor, of course, some of the questions I helped review or write, and I was pretty good at multiple-choice tests.  Just couldn’t stop being competitive.  


As I have aged and as my horizon has changed so greatly - and my ego has lessened, much of that overt competitiveness has dropped off.  I want all people to win.  I want love to win.  I want you to be successful in your endeavors.  


“Walk Humbly with your God” - it has taken some time to learn humility.  And, let me tell you, I am probably one of the most humble people around, maybe one of the most humble people in the whole world.  I WAS thinking of getting a billboard “KAREN WHITE IS SO SUPER HUMBLE” but not anymore!!!


Oops - sorry, there still is ego in my brain.  Getting knocked down by illness, by mental depression, through a divorce, losing my family, and especially my grandchildren has been a tough lesson to learn.  Learning to “Let Go, and Let God” is humbling.  Learning to be a woman is humbling - for a white, egotistical, conservative, Christian, male professor!!!  


But, I still have some competitiveness in me - but I compete against myself.


Eighteen years ago, I competed in the New Haven Labor Day 20K race.  20K is about 12.5 miles (I wish it had been 13.1 miles so I could say I did a half-marathon).  I worked hard that summer - walking 6, or 8, or 10 miles most days. (I found a training guide on the web).  I wasn’t that ‘competitive’.  I finished ahead of about four people, and behind maybe 2500 others that crossed the finish line ahead of me.  (It is a big race!!!)  But, I did it. I walked in the race but averaged about 14:30 per mile.  That is speed walking. 

Yesterday as I walked at the Georgetown Recreation Center (only three miles), my best time was 18:00 a mile.  It might be hard to say what my slowest time was as I take breaks and stop and check my phone, or sip my water or use the restroom.  So, I am competing against myself, not for a prize, but for my health.  


I have a strange goal that seems farther and farther away every year.  After his resurrection, Jesus walked to Emmaus - which is described as being seven miles from Jerusalem. The two men he walked with walked back to Jerusalem after he revealed himself. That was another seven miles - for at least 14 miles in a day.  Can I ever get to 14 miles (walking) in a day?  Doubtful.  Maybe I can get to seven miles in a day.


I do compete with myself on other (dumb) things.  


I’m currently at 607 consecutive days on Duolingo (I’ve been on Duolingo for 6.75 years - but interrupted my streak 607 days ago - so rebuilding that streak.


I’m at 1522 days of Flow Free Hex game (about four years - they seem to have a couple of ‘free days’ if you miss.  I have a 677 streak on a mini-crossword puzzle game.  I have a 327-day streak on the Bible app (and 120 weeks in a row).  I remember the day I missed - it was a Sunday (when you would have thought that I did some Bible reading).  


Am I being too competitive with myself?  What if I miss a day on Duolingo?  Will the world come to an end?  Or a day on the Bible app?  I think I have some false pride in keeping consecutive days going!!!


I have recorded walking 171 days this year (some days as low as 1.5 miles, and some days about 5 miles).  Today is day 172 and I will walk some today!!!  


Yes - I guess these are habits.  I think most of them are good - keeping my brain active, learning a foreign language (German), walking.   


I’d like to think of my competitiveness as being a positive trait - of sticking to simple activities.  


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But, there are times when competitiveness can lead to negative outcomes.  Winning at all costs (including cheating).  


In businesses, it seems like only the high achievers get recognition for their competitiveness.  “The top salesperson of the year is ABC.  What about the second, third, and fourth salespeople?  What about the whole sales team?  If you remember your statistics class and the bell curve, only about 7% of a large group will be the top group.  Most of your group are solid people - in the middle working every day.  What’s the message that management gives to recognize only the top people?  That the rest of you are only so-so?  You are not as good as the top folks?


There are those that never get recognition because the measurements don’t measure what they do.  The top salespeople get awards and bonuses, but how about the people who do the work behind the scenes that make the top people shine?  The accountants and bookkeepers who keep the supply chain moving or even the janitors and ground keepers who keep the facility sparkling clean.  


And, it can be that recognizing top achievers can create a push that is unhealthy such as a work/life balance.  I have friends who worked for the Big Four Accounting firms and the push to achieve lead them to work 70 to 90 hours a week.  How many times can you say to your spouse and family “I have to work late again today”?  And, most have moved to other companies!!!


Healthy competition - such (I hope) as my trying to be a little better on some of my activities every day - can be good - but competition can become unhealthy.


Is loving a competition?  Can I work harder to love all people?  Will I get an award for the most loving person in Texas?  (I hope not).  


Matthew 6:3 “But when you give to someone in need, don’t let your left hand know what your right hand is doing.”


Lord, let love be my aim, not an award or prize.


LOVE WINS!!!


Karen