THURSDAY, MAY 27, 2021 A SIDE TRIP - DALE CARNEGIE

 THURSDAY, MAY 27, 2021 A SIDE TRIP - DALE CARNEGIE

Over the years, I’ve heard of the “Dale Carnegie Course’.

Yesterday, I found this and wanted to share it with you.

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Dale Carnegie’s Six Ways To Make People Like You are invaluable.

They are:

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.

2. Smile

3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.

6. Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely.

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Let’s look at the points in some detail.

.1 BE GENUINELY INTERESTED IN OTHER PEOPLE.  

There are some people that I instantly like and that seem to like me.  

We all have stories on our journey through life, and I like to hear the journeys and share the trip with them.  When I meet somebody new, I might ask where they are from, what they do for a living.  

Aside, sometimes this is hard.  When I substitute taught this year and I was in a room of 20 eighth graders, I tried to know their names, but that was hard.  There was a stretch where I was with the same group for six days, and I did get to know their names and a little about them - were they in sports, music, thinking of going to college.  

There was a new lady playing granny basketball the other day.  I did introduce myself, but I know in the future we’ll get to know each other.  There is a new person at my apartment complex and I will get to know her some.

My knowledge and wanting to know something about the person (at least to me), is not being a ‘busybody”, but a friend.  Maybe we had some shared experiences or common likes.  The Oklahoma speaker, Will Rogers said “I never met a man I didn’t like”.  Unfortunately, there are those that I have met that might not share that sentiment.  That is when I need to apply LOVE WINS.

.2 SMILE

I hear a speaker say “A smile is a way of disarming another person”.  In the last two weeks, my mask has been worn less and my smile is more prevalent - and my smile is more visible.

Or “Let a Smile Be Your Umbrella on a Rainy, Rainy Day” (song by Bing Crosby)

.3 REMEMBER THAT A PERSON’S NAME IS TO THAT PERSON THE SWEETEST AND MOST IMPORTANT SOUND IN ANY LANGUAGE.

I lack at doing this.  Maybe too many names over too many years of too many students.  When I taught, I prided myself on getting to know the students in the first two weeks.  I had my students fill out information index cards, and I worked on them like flashcards!!!

.4 BE A GOOD LISTENER. ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO TALK ABOUT THEMSELVES.

I’ve called this ‘active’ listening in the past.  Listen, really listen.  As the adage goes, God gave us two ears and only one mouth, so we should listen at least twice as much as we talk!!!

.5 TALK IN TERMS OF THE OTHER PERSON’S INTERESTS.

 

To do so, you really need to know the other person.  Are they grandparents?  Where are their children and grandchildren?  Do they get to see them so?  Where do they live?  What are their hobbies and interests?

.6 MAKE THE OTHER PERSON FEEL IMPORTANT—AND DO IT SINCERELY.

Make it more than just lip service, make it genuine, authentic, and wholehearted.

If you want to have a friend, you have to be one.  Being a friend, being somebody who relates well does take time and effort.  Yes, you can use index cards, write down what you know.  

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The best things in life are friends - and you need to be a good friend!!!  Do unto others are you would have them do to you.  Love one another.  LOVE WINS!!

Hugs!!

Karen