LOVE WINS FRIDAY FEBRUARY 5, 2021

 FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 5, 2021 LOVE WINS!!!

I’ve been writing about LOVE WINS - and taking 1 Corinthians 13 as a source.

“ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

Let’s look at “boasting” or “bragging” today!!

Dictionary definition:

excessively proud and self-satisfied talk about one's achievements, possessions, or abilities.

"his online boasting led police straight to his doorstep"

exhibiting or characterized by excessive pride or self-satisfaction.

"she addressed his boasting comments about being a famous billionaire"

Then I wanted to see the difference between ‘brag’ and ‘boast’.  “Brag is more colloquial than boast, and carries a stronger implication of exaggeration and conceit; it often also implies glorying in one's superiority, or in what one can do as well as in what one is, or has, or has done.

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WOW - “excessively proud” - “self-satisfied” - “exaggeration” - “conceit”.  I can’t imagine boasting/bragging working well in a marriage or in love.  

Love, at least to me, can’t abide by these terms. If I love my spouse, if I love my family, if I love my neighbor, if I love my enemies, then being an egotist, conceited, boasting, being excessing proud is opposite to being a true lover.  

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Ah, let “me” brag.  (only for illustration), “I am an awesome husband”; “I am an awesome wife”; “I am such a super parent”; “I am such a great neighbor”.  That doesn’t sound much like love.  

I have written about humility.  As I age (and have experienced divorce after 46 years), I have been humbled.  I’m not bragging about how wonderful I was as a spouse.  Marriage takes two people; it takes compromise - not egotism.  I don’t know of any perfect marriages, of any perfect people.  We are all human beings - and we have idiosyncrasies and errors.  (I know of many mistakes I made as a spouse.)  

(Tongue-in-cheek).  There is an expression, “We learn by our mistakes”.  In my case, I’ve made so many mistakes, I am extremely smart!!

Marriage is 100% and 100% - not 50% and 50%.  Both partners need to be committed to making the marriage work.

So, for my married friends (and I think most all of you are married), don’t brag, don’t boast.  Be humble and loving.  

There we are - LOVE WINS FRIDAY!!!

Do love one another!!

HUGS!!!

Karen