Saturday, May 16, 2020

Learning Patience - part I

Lord, I want patience - AND I WANT IT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!

https://www.consulting.com/how-to-be-more-patient

 

There are times when I want something NOW.  Like, I really want my new life to start taking off and meeting people, and helping them learn to love, accept, and grow as humans.  

 

(And this might be more-so in this time of quarantine and isolation.  From the simple things of - I want to watch live sports - or go to a game; I want to go to a restaurant and enjoy a meal out; I want my kids (or grandchildren) back in school; I want to get back to work; and much more!!!)

 

Even for things that are pretty sure - like students graduating or entering college - or going back to work - things seem to drag.

 

Like others, there is something I want and am hoping for - and I can try to push the envelope some - but I need to be patient.  (Like reconciliation with my family).

 

Our society (at least in the past) had too many ways for instant gratification.  If you wanted a new car, you went out and bought it (and make payments); or a new house, you went out and bought it (and had a mortgage and payments)

 

But sometimes only happen (if they happen) with patience.  For my friends who are mothers - didn’t you want your pregnancies to get over quicker [while you were pregnant - and maybe forgot that when you were busy with diapers, feedings, and caring for you baby.]

 

So, from the article, let’s see what is suggested to help us learn patience

 

-1 Practice being patient

This might be easier said than done!!  The suggestions are to practice patience like putting together a 2000-piece puzzle; or reading “War and Peace” (I thought reading the “Game of Thrones” took ‘forever’)!!!  I’ve wanted to reread Ayn Rand’s masterpiece Atlas Shrugged - but when I think of it, it would take a long time to reread it.  (And, hey, I remember enough of it)

 

-2 Try to understand why you are impatient

Is this just part of your nature?  If you are in the grocery store in a line, do you get impatient?  If you are waiting to get your haircut (and many of us are waiting until salons and barbers reopen) - can you be patient WITHOUT complaining?  

 

Maybe you can work on this - by picking the longest line - with the customer who has the fullest grocery cart - and put a smile on your face (maybe even say ‘hi’).  

 

-3 And, unless there is something special going on, you can remind yourself that you are just uncomfortable.

 

Obviously, if you need the restroom, or you are going to be late for an appointment because of an accident on the road you might become impatient.  In my last twenty years (after leaving South Dakota), traffic has been a ‘way-of-life’.  A way around appointment impatience is to leave ever earlier than you need - “just in case”.  If you have flexible work hours, start early before traffic gets miserable.  

 

-4 Distract yourself

I like to have an audiobook on my phone most of the time.  If I am stuck in traffic, waiting at a doctor’s office, waiting in line, I can put my headphones in and listen.  

 

Comment - I have written about the only person you can change is YOU!!!  If you are angry and inpatient, how can you change yourself?  Can you put sweet thoughts into your brain?  Can you make the best of a bad situation?

 

Maybe you can rewrite the scenario. The lady that is taking too much time in the grocery line, is on her first grocery shopping trip since her husband died.  Her mind is someplace else.  Give her a break.  The traffic is backed up because there was an accident ahead - pray for the people involved in the accident.  Your doctor is running late as she had an emergency with a patient that could have died - and she kept the person alive!!!

 

More on this tomorrow!!!

 

(Karen, to God - “I’m sorry, I get impatient at times.  Thank you for being patient with me - with all my foibles and issues. I need Your help!!”)

 

Hugs!!

 

Karen

 


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