Suicide - Part II

 Coping with Depression

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/coping-with-depression.htm

https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/ 

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/ConditionsAndTreatments/suicide-family-and-friends 

https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/blog/5-warning-signs-of-suicidal-behavior-that-are-easy-to-miss/ 

Hi All!!!

Yesterday, I wrote about depression and leading to thoughts of suicide.  I want to continue that a few days.

According to the second linked article, Suicide is the tenth leading cause of death in the United States; 

-1 The rate of suicide is highest in middle-aged white men.

-2 In 2018, men died by suicide 3.56x more often than women.

-3 On average, there are 132 suicides per day.

-4 White males accounted for 69.67% of suicide deaths in 2018.

-5 In 2018, firearms accounted for 50.57% of all suicide deaths.

Suicide is the second leading cause of death for ages 18 to 34.  

And, as you might suspect, COVID-19 is also aiding growth in suicide.  People are feeling the economic squeeze.  Many have lost their jobs, are behind on their rent or house payments,  Even though governments have tried to protect against housing expulsions, the short term outlook for many low-income people is bleak.  A wage earner - out of a job, and unable to support his/her family may think that death will give life insurance benefits to his or her family. 

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I have many friends whose lives have been touched by suicide.

My friend MN lost a son to suicide.  My friend RGP attempted suicide.  

From the third article:

“Some people may feel guilt after suicide. It is not unusual to feel guilty, and that you ‘could have done more’. You may feel they should have picked up the warning signs, or blame yourself for things you did or didn’t do in the period leading up to the suicide. Many people also feel anger and betrayal. 

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Some additional thoughts from that article:

“-.The reasons for each suicide are unique. So too are the reactions, grief, and coping processes of those left behind. It’s important to take care of yourself during this overwhelming and upsetting time. Suggestions include:

-. Sometimes after losing someone to suicide people can feel suicidal themselves. If you notice signs of depression or suicidal thoughts in yourself or other family members it’s important to get professional assistance.

-. Be honest with children and explain the suicide in language appropriate to their age.

-. Surround yourself with nurturing people, and take time for yourself when you need it.

-. Friends and family may seem awkward or not know how to help. Speak to them about your needs. Some may not be able to offer the kind of support you need, which is okay.

-. Try to eat well, sleep regularly, and keep active to maintain your overall well being.

-. Accept that some friends won’t be able to give you the kind of emotional support you need.

-. Consider joining a support group in your area.

-. Anticipate that important events, such as birthdays and Christmas, will provoke strong feelings.

-. Seek professional bereavement counseling.”

It frequently comes as a shock to a family that their child/loved one decided life was so rotten that they needed to end their life.

For some time, I have written about “LOVE WINS”.  Yes, sometimes it is hard to love a despondent, moody, depressed family member or friend.  

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So, do you LOVE - really LOVE your family?  Do you really LOVE and support your friends - especially those that might be susceptible to depression, despair, and ideas of suicide?  

Have you put shame and guilt on any in your family (others)?  Have you forgiven any of your family(others)?  Do you carry a grudge against any in your family (others)?  Have you asked for forgiveness for your actions? 

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You can frequently see problems in other health issues, but humans seem to be masters at hiding their own mental health issues!!

More tomorrow (and Thursday)!!!

LOVE DOES WIN!!!

HUGS!!

Karen